Cheating

[Toefur]

As in relationships, how do you deal with it? I know some people give the person a second chance and some are out the door upon hearing the news. I belong to the latter group. What stance do you take?

My view:

To me it's just so disgustingly wrong; and if my partner cheated on me I couldn't trust her ever again, but I wouldn't need to because I wouldn't forgive her anyway.

Did I mention it's disgustingly WRONG AND EVIL!

(No, I didn't start this thread because I got cheated on. Just thought it would be interesting!)

[anhedonia]

*puts big boots on*

*kicks cheating guy's butt out the door* :D

[Blank Verse]

Well, I'd like to believe that everyone is worthy of a second chance, but sometimes that person doesn't deserve it. It really depends on the whole situation. Some people feel that if their significant other cheated on you, than it's ok for you to cheat on them. I think that's sick.

[Webdude]

Originally posted by +chips
*puts big boots on*

*kicks cheating guy's butt out the door* :D

b b but....you cheated on me with Jan! Now you're mad at me cuz I cheated on you with Jan??


Tell Jerry all about it! I'm taking you to Springer court!

[Toefur]

Blah, that is sick.

Damn that ---- is just wrong.

Oh... and another thing.

I read a report on prostitution a few weeks back; about who uses them and why.

Apparently lots of married men go to them, and they don't see it as cheating. :confused: :rolleyes:

And most of them don't tell their wives because, "they wouldn't understand".

That is so messed up.

If you can't commit, don't get married.

I think it should be illegal to cheat on wifes/husbands. It sounds reasonable doesn't it? I mean, such should be the terms and conditions of marriage... no cheating.

And people that do cheat... should be put on public display in some stocks in a busy place, with a big sign that says, "This person cheated on their partner".

Then people would be welcome to throw fruit and other heavier things at them. :classic2:

[Blank Verse]

I guess married people who cheat don't think much of those sacred vows they took...

[Jan]

I must agree Toefur, it hasn't happened to me, but if it did, I would be unforgiving. You can't turn back time. Nor can I understand how couples can resolve the issue and continue as if 'nothing' happened :confused2

[}:8) Supermoo]

Originally posted by Toefur
Apparently lots of married men go to them, and they don't see it as cheating. :confused: :rolleyes:

I can understand that to a degree, the husband is not going against his wife as he pledges to be there for his wife. He is not planning to start a new long-term relationship with the prostitute, he is probably, simply looking for sex. I doubt he is looking for any long term relationships in prostitutes, and thus, it will not infringe the love for his wife.

Love and sex are seen as two different things.

I think the Japanese have a similar ideal with the Geisha, etc.

Although if your going to go out and have sex with multiple partners without alerting to your main partner, I find that rather disturbing.

These are simply another opinion, I do not necessary agree or disagree with them and do not wish to endorse or condone them in any way whatsoever. I'm just trying to present an alternate view. Yada, yada, yada... please don't find it offensive.

[Jan]

Originally posted by }:8) Supermoo

Love and sex are seen as two different things.
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Spell it how you like Mr Moo, it is still cheating :mad:

And the wife/girlfriend misses out :p

[}:8) Supermoo]

From that viewpoint love and sex are separate, he has complete love for his wife. Although to consider alternative sources of sexual relations he is probably either in a sex-less relationship or wants more sex from the relationship...

Here's another one Jan: ;)

Sex should be seen as a bodily function, just like every other bodily function. It's perfectly normal. etc. etc.

Love is love, it is not simply one function, it is unparalleled affection for wanting to be with another person. etc. etc.


Another little personal opinion I'm throwing into the mix is that;

I strongly believe these parallels of 'right and wrong' were heavily influenced in western society by churches, religion, bible etc. Where as in Japan, their main religious focus was on Buddhism. I'm not saying one is correct and the other isn't, but can you explain the varying differences being formed in any other way? (That's not rhetorical, I'd appreciate I response)


Intrigued,