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Advice needed, older ppl please

First of all, I don't think those keywords really say much.

Second, I don't think a keylogger is in her best interest. It would send her a message saying what she is doing is wrong. If anything, she might be curious. 10 is young, yes, but kids are growing up faster and faster.

So, what would I do? Keep everything open and honest. Talk to your parents, tell them to talk to her, and talk to her yourself. Say that you saw this show, and if kids are exposed to certain things at a young age it can cause serious emotional problems. Tell her that the internet can be a dangerous place, and she has to be careful. If she is curious, tell her to talk to your parents. If she knows more about sex, it will be less dangerous.
 
All my sister does on the net is play virtual pet games (neopets.com, etc), looks different things up on google, and msn with 3 people from her class on msn.

My sis watches dr. phil on tv with my mom and everytime theres some 14yo pregnant girl on the show my mom starts to complain about youth 'freedom', sex, drugs and shit.

*maybe* her interest in looking that up on google was after such a show.

I looked thruh her temp files, msn logs, cookies, and no sign about anything related to sex. I'm closing this case and supposing this was an isolated incident :)
 
Sorry to say this, but americans are way to uptight when it comes to things like boobs, sex, drugs, and stuff like that.

Simples thing to do is talk to your kid about it.

When it comes to sex, porno, boobs (Yeah, so waht janet had hers all over public TV). My dad could care less what i did. Hell, he told me about it, and was like, is there, its not right what they do, but that is their problem.

Drugs, was a bit more simple, you do drugs, ill kill you.

And boobs, well being brought up in the netherlands (europe), we saw that stuff on TV, same with swear words, they were all over TV as well, i got taught that swear words were wrong, and that was that. Boobs was as simple as, those are the things mommie has.

Really, just talk to her about it. Censoring that what is out there will just come as more of a shock when she is grown up.
 
I don't think a nine year old girl anywhere in the world should be subjected to the possible outcome of typing those keywords into google. The porn sharks have most covered as top searches.

Have your own kids, then see how you would react.
 
hehe... I'd be concerned if someone as young as 9 was looking up porn and adult-rated material. I'd definitely check them out and see what exactly they were doing. Regardless of this privacy thing... LoL... someone under 10 shouldn't be on those sort of sites or looking up such material on Google. :p
 
Try clearing all temp / history / autofill out of the browser, set the history and temp files high and wait a week, see what's in them then.

It could be innocent, but if it's not it's the safety issue that's most important. 40 years on 16 year old daughter, I'd risk being seen as a shit for a while to protect them from the kinds of dangers possible on the internet.
 
She's 9 and there are some very dangerous characters out there - privacy is not an issue, Wojtek is worried and that's what family do. If there is even the slightest risk it should be followed up, and one thing can lead to an other, so the curiosity of a 9 year old could well end in tragedy if there is no-one cares enough to protect them.
 
I'm not saying that she has any privacy, I agree with Webdude there. What I domeant to say, but didn't quite say it the way I meant was this: She should know that she's being monitored. However, if she doesn't, and you just decide to go through all the temp files ot keylog or anything without her knowledge of it, it sets a bad example. It tells an impressionable child that it's ok to spy on people. It also makes it hard for her to trust her family.

You guys are saying wait until you have kids before you can make a decision about this, but I think you're forgetting what it's like to be a kid.
 
Originally posted by X-Istence
Sorry to say this, but americans are way to uptight when it comes to things like boobs, sex, drugs, and stuff like that.

Simples thing to do is talk to your kid about it.

When it comes to sex, porno, boobs (Yeah, so waht janet had hers all over public TV). My dad could care less what i did. Hell, he told me about it, and was like, is there, its not right what they do, but that is their problem.

Drugs, was a bit more simple, you do drugs, ill kill you.

And boobs, well being brought up in the netherlands (europe), we saw that stuff on TV, same with swear words, they were all over TV as well, i got taught that swear words were wrong, and that was that. Boobs was as simple as, those are the things mommie has.

Really, just talk to her about it. Censoring that what is out there will just come as more of a shock when she is grown up.
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We are not uptight about "boobs, sex, drugs" being on television. What we are uptight about is when a child sits down to watch The SuperBowl and she sees a boob. We have rating systems in place for a reason. Sure in Europe "boobs" on Tv is "ok", that's their culture and they are ok with it, we aren't. If I'm watching the playboy channel or HBO or Starz or a pay-per-view movie, and I see sex or boob, I won't be in shock, because these are channels that display it.. but not on NBC or CBS or Fox or ABC.
 
No, I'm not fogrtting the childhood. I knew as a kid, my parents had this thing called Parental Perrogative. It basically meant they could do whatever they want.

In a two kid family, one kid is "always" tattling on the other. As a parent, most of the time you are "Yeah, ok, blah blah blah. Quit hitting your brother!" I get irritated with it. Now I have rules that there better be evidence before you come tattling on your brother or else both get in trouble.

Look at it the other way. He goes and tells his parents his suspicions, and they find none.....but she knows he is the one that told. What problems does that cause then? Lets look at a bigger example. Say she is sneaking out at night. Does he peek into her room first and invade her privacy, then go tell? Or does he wake up his parents with his suspicion, and chance getting the hell beat out of him because he woke them for nothing since she is sound asleep in bed in the middle of the night? Same aspect, different scenario. If she happened to be looking for sex and such, and he didnt get involved....it could lead to those nights of sneaking out..

When you move out on your own, have a job, support yourself....then you can have all the privacy you want. Until then, it's not your house, and not your rules. If a caring sibling thinks you are doing something that could lead to harm, that sibling has the right to check it out.

In my house, we understand the internet and it's nature. I dont block such stuff from my kids. It's not too bright to shield them from it. Then they go into shock and have a heart attack on their first day on their own when they surf the net in their apartment and run into a porn site. Sorry, that's just the way it is. They know what it is, and it's not something they are interested in. They are pretty much brazened to it now. I can only hope they remain that way. I concern myself more with any drug or alchohol problems that may come up rather than anything porn they may see on the net. Although... I do wish there was more control on porn, not because it's wrong or imooral, but just that it's so damned annoying..
 
Still a kid at heart and I still remember, WD hit some of it on the head, I'd just say Wojtek caring about what your sis is up to and the possible dangers is not a federal issue on invasion of privacy.

You look after her like this the rest of your life and she'll love you for it man :applaudin :)

PS nitroboy - your profile does not inspire confidence in taking your advice on this issue :nervous:



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Originally posted by Robert
We are not uptight about "boobs, sex, drugs" being on television. What we are uptight about is when a child sits down to watch The SuperBowl and she sees a boob. We have rating systems in place for a reason.
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That child is not going to care unless you make a whole issue out of it.
Obviously they shouldn't be exposed to nudity whenever it can be helped, but neither should it be censored to the point where any form of nudity becomes a complete taboo and a dirty thing.

And I do agree with a 9 year old having no privacy, but she should have a sense of her own space in my opinion and that should be respected to some degree.
They'll censor themselves if they know what they do online is being watched, but if you have so little faith in the way you brought them up that you have to spy on them without their knowledge then something is wrong because at some point you will have to confront them with the fact that you've been monitoring them and from that time on they'll just look for it in other ways that you have no control over.
 
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Do whatever you feel is right. Believe it or not kids around that age start getting very curious about sex and the human anatomy. Most likely it's an innocent thing (curiousity) but it's better to be safe than sorry. I'd talk to her about it and tell her she shouldn't be looking at those things at her age. I'd tell her I'm going to be monitoring her activities and depending on how old you are I'd tell her I'm going to hit her (sometimes a threat is enough to deter a kid, other times it makes them want to do it more). Also threaten to tell your parents.

Looking back at your original post she really wasn't looking at any hardcore stuff, she was using very tame keywords so I wouldn't worry. Just ask her what she was looking for when she was typing in those words. She might be a little embarassed but you can probably talk it out.
 
Originally posted by x8r
I'd tell her I'm going to be monitoring her activities and depending on how old you are I'd tell her I'm going to hit her (sometimes a threat is enough to deter a kid, other times it makes them want to do it more).
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I think parental guidance is better than a big brother using physical abuse as a threat :rolleyes:
 
Well, instead of a keylogger, install something else such as those thingies that can monitor a user's activity and filter out some sites, then she won't feel so bad.

But bleh, I came here when I was 9.

Also, it is very normal for a child to be curious. Maybe you should instead explain such things to her instead of letting her find out herself and discovering indesirable websites in the process.

BTW I think she haven't heard of GOOGLE>Clear Search History on the Google Toolbar (or Tools>Internet Option>Clear History). :p

Also who knows she might be a lurker around here.:devious2:
 
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I'm against censoring (filtering out sites and such), and keylogging or activity monitoring applications, but I'm not against looking through logs and stuff. If you're smart enough, you'd get rid of the evidence so that they won't be able to find out anything.

About your sister... just talk to her. All this spying and tattletelling only leads to distrust.

Being curious about the things that adults don't want you to know is normal for kids. Besides, I too think that she accidentally left out the y in "sexy"...
 
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